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“Grab his legs,” someone said. And then, I discovered rowing. Everybody seemed to have gone to a private school with a fancy rowing team. I knew what was happening. Our team captain, a pound hulk of a man, was walking from freshman to freshman with a large vat of vegetable oil, and letting it cascade all over them one by one.

It sounded like Jeffy.

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My hazing was upon me. The upperclassmen welcomed me as their first openly gay member, too. When my turn came, I closed my eyes. Every morning, I would get to see the sunrise before I went to school, and I loved the feeling of exhaustion I felt after every practice.

After two weeks of tryouts, we had finally made the grade, and this was our reward: An afternoon of embarrassing hazing activities, followed by a homoerotic climax that seemed to have come straight out of my year-old gay subconscious. “What the fuck!” I cried, more out of reflex than anything else.

College is a strange time. And, to make things worse, I was pathetically, pathologically shy. A tarp nearby had also been covered in oil, and other members of the team were streaming into the backyard with bottles of beer to watch what was about to happen.

Hazing Gone Wrong: This Frat’s 'Secret' Will Shock You! Matt & Justus M subscribers Subscribe. You have to get up at in the morning to sit in a very skinny boat facing backward and row around in a loop until you get very tired. I had always been pretty comfortable with the idea that I was gay, but I was still struggling with the implication that it meant being less manly than the other boys.

You have to wear some very revealing spandex outfits. And if I became one, especially at college, I would be like that too. When I arrived at tryouts, I discovered these people were much larger, more serious and gregarious than me. On a Thursday night, around 2am, I was woken up by someone shoving a pillowcase over my head.

In my case, that situation involved man-on-man oil wrestling. For as long as I could remember, my mom had been an obsessive long-distance runner. I had no idea college was going to be so much like a gay porn movie. But jocks were gay hazing. As far as sports go, rowing is a remarkably bizarre and all-consuming one.

Given that our rowing club was located on a river near farmland, you also have to dodge rocks and tree stumps and the occasional bloated dead cow. Ever since I was a young kid, she had always been an exceptionally talented athlete — a runner, swimmer, biker and rower.

And yet there was something magical about it. Not only did becoming a jock boost my self-confidence, it was an antidote to my anxieties about my burgeoning homosexuality, about the girlish lilt that could emerge in my voice or my occasional extravagant hand motions.

Candid discussions about my sexuality emerged during late-night, alcohol-fueled conversations. In high school, I took the sport more and more seriously until something weird happened: I became sort of good. And my older sister was a star.

I was tall and shaped like a stretched piece of Play-Doh with twigs stuck into it.